Exercise 1. the look of love
This is a simple exercise you can do with anyone to help build intimacy. Sitting together, gaze into each other's eyes for about five minutes. Don't talk or try to make the other person react. Just sit quietly, keeping eye contact, and let your mind go where it will. What are your feelings toward the other person...do you think about something they have done that you like or are proud of...just gaze at them. Notice the emotion in their eyes, the set of their face. Try to keep eye contact the whole time. It only takes a few minutes, but when your time is up, talk together about what you felt and thought about when you were looking at each other. It's ok to just give each other a hug. It also helps to write down your experiences in your journals.
The purpose of this exercise is to help you to really see each other, of course, but it also puts aside all the worries and work of the day and allows you to interact without words getting in the way. Studies have shown that this kind of contact increases feelings of intimacy and caring. By allowing yourselves to see each other without defenses helps to share your vulnerability with each other, which increases trust.
Even if you only do this once a week, it's worth the effort to feel this connected.
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